Loving the Inner Child Within
When Jennifer met me she wanted a psychic reading.
She explained how she was really stuck in her own life, scared for the future. So much uncertainty and fear, she was almost always anxious.
She couldn’t sense what was ahead of her. She didn’t have the confidence to seek it or trust she would know when she would receive it.
It was not especially clear to her until we got into our session, that she was being haunted by memories of her childhood. That were locked in her unconscious. Everything that she had suppressed for years and years finally had enough and wanted come out. It wanted to be witnessed and it was the sacred gift she could give back to herself. The gift of love and acceptance to a version that never received it.
Jennifer had consistently attracted relationships that were toxic, partners that were disrespectful and controlling. And, she was deeply empathic, carrying the affliction of not only her own wounds, but the wounds of others as well.
She was doubting herself constantly and lacked boundaries. She was in constant people pleasing mode, looking for validation through the external conditions of other people’s happiness.
She asked, “Why is everything so hard? Why do I feel the way that I do?”
I gently replied, “You are bearing the burden of many old traumas that are calling out for attention to be healed, and your inner children are very upset. They feel neglected, but I can help you heal with them, and show you how to love them.”
Jennifer catered to the needs of others, feeling so responsible for their feelings and thoughts, that she had completely neglected her own. She was moving outwards in completely different directions, and her inner child was being massively triggered by it. Tired of being shoved away, tired of being ignored and resisted.
However, by helping her isolate some of the events that had taken place in her earlier years, she began to understand how they were impacting the current direction of her life, and had been for many years.
She invested in coaching with me and the inner child healing process began.
The inner child is a traumatized part of your psyche that would have experienced suffering in the developmental years. There are endless scenarios of how this could have shown up in your life, but no matter how, it shaped how your identity would develop. The experiences mold thoughts into beliefs, and those beliefs evolve into identities.
When you encounter emotional triggers, this is likely the inner child feeling impacted. This is the part of the unconscious mind that is triggered and reacts by generating emotional energy within the body. A tightness in your gut. A burning in your shoulders. Shallow breathing and an accelerated heart rate. Beliefs disguised as thoughts, that only speak half truths.
Your inner child is a part of you and goes with you everywhere. Yup! You’re taking them to work, into relationships, when you travel, out to dinner, everywhere.
Start by paying attention to how many things disrupt the flow of your day. Observe these triggers and ask yourself:
What upsets you about it?
How does it make you feel?
How do you react?
What does it remind you of?
Healing work does not include blaming, but observation and acceptance. If those are challenging for you it’s a good idea to work with someone who can provide you with support, guidance, and validation.
The wounded inner child can inhibit development throughout your adult years by:
People pleasing
Avoiding conflict or confrontation
Not finishing what you start
Attracting narcissistic/toxic relationships
Codependency and/or addictive behaviors
Identity crisis
Self doubt and low self esteem
Poor communication
In the 20 or so years I have been doing my own inner child work there have been many tears, feelings of resentment, anger, abandonment, loss, and a lot of acceptance and embracing.
It is not the easiest work, but it is the kind of work that will open your consciousness to the world around you in a very different way.
If you are afraid to go after what you want in life and live your dreams, ask yourself why?
If you were not afraid of the unknown, what would your life look like?
Is your inner child crying out for attention?
Inner child healing is a very personal journey that requires patience, kindness, and commitment. But, this practice of self healing is done through nurturing and comfort. Show the inner child deep love and embrace them with your heart.
The more inner child work you do, the more and more whole you will become; ready to approach life with confidence and trust!
This will organically manifest:
Abundance
Boundaries
Success & prosperity
Balanced relationships
Health & wellness
Confidence
Self-trust
Independence & freedom
Assertive communication
Recite this to yourself seven times and meditate with 528hz frequency music for 17 minutes.
Journal what you experience, without judgement. Become the active and supportive witness to your healing.
“When I give the little child within my heart love, love is returned to me with endless potential.”
